Picky Picky Driving Me Insane

Why can't you use the same spoon for each food type on your plate? Why does is matter if your bread has a tare? Or a piece of your food is broken? I deal with this everyday, a fit to deal with if I put the syrup on the pancakes before I cut them into pieces etc... etc. I can't remember every single day for things that seem so silly to me, I do try but I don't have time to have his food just the way he likes every single time. But they are such a big deal for our boy. We keep telling AJ that is all ends up in the same place or it will taste the same if the syrup is put on first. Everything just has to be a certain way and it's driving me insane!! Had to vent. I feel better now.